The time has come to deploy for an infinite amount of time and you may find yourself feeling hopeless or your life in a state of chaos. What do you do? Who do you talk to? How does the time pass? Time on the outside feels like it is passing you by. With the access to social media, people you have grown up with seem like they are surpassing the time frame you have set to accomplish your goals. The amount of time spent out to sea feels like an eternity to be able to accomplish a multitude of things you could on dry land and now it is all on pause. Ultimately, it seems like your life is not your own and someone is using a controller to control your every move.
Although, this is a vary unstable time of your lives it is also a great time for you to recalculate your life. Get a journal, use your iPhone, tablet, anything to jot down the initial step in regaining your life and putting your plans into action. Ask yourself, “What is it that you really want out of life?” “What is it that really makes self happy?” “What are the goals you want to achieve while deployed?” “What are the goals you want to achieve after deployment?” “What are the things that you want to accomplish on shore duty?”
Yes, we all know life does not go as planned, things happen all the time that throw us off the course we thought we were suppose to go. But it is always good to have a plan and stick with it until life throws the unexpected at us. I like to think it is God’s way of showing me that I do not, and will not ever have life figured out, and He puts us in certain situations to see how we will react or respond to life’s biggest conquest. His light will always shine to guide us in the path he has predestined for us, but we still have to make the decision to follow His will.
Back to jotting down goals. Once, you have all your goals listed, answered the questions above or questions that are most related to your situation or lifestyle (this may take a few days) then it is time to start putting your goals into action. The way I start off is by praying. I pray to God for the strength to initiate and endure all hardships that comes with accomplishing my goals. Philippians 4:13 says, (My favorite Bible verse) “I can do ALL things through Christ Jesus, who strengthens me.” If you believe, you can achieve! It starts with YOU!
After praying, it is time to act. It is guesstimated that it takes 22 days to start a habit. Sometimes it is good to have a white board or sticky notes posted on your mirror with reminders, words of encouragement, or questions of motivation for example “What can I do to be successful today?” Now is better than any time to enroll into college courses, study for your advancement exam or SAT/ACT for your officer package. How much weight did you say you wanted to lose? Make a gym time schedule and pick better selections of entrees for breakfast, lunch, and dinner.
While you think you are not living your life or it has been put on pause, you have to think you are still breathing, still have movable and operable limbs, you woke up in your right mind, and most importantly you are still on this Earth for a reason. You are living the life you chose and with that comes challenges and hardships. You still have to keep moving forward keep fighting for what you want. “Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up” (Galatians 6:9, New International Version). The old cliched quote “Life is what you make it” is a quote we should all consider in the process of improving our lives.
I remember being out to sea and things could not have gotten any worse, or to let me tell it my life was horrible. And, although, people were mean, belittled me, talked about me, wanted the worst for me, I did what I had to do to succeed. The way I perceived that chapter of my life was that my success came at the price of being humbled. There was not a night I went without studying for something and having the desire to go above and beyond what I had already achieved. The only way I could keep pushing through the turmoil going on in my life was by praying and holding onto God’s unchanging hands. Romans 12:12 directs us to “Be joyful in hope, patient in affliction, faithful in prayer” (New International Version).
This is just the beginning for you! When are going to start living? If you need a little more motivation keep the words of CMC Kemp in mind “If it is to be, it is up to me.”