Trap Queen or Nah?

If trap queen is the modern day housewife, I’ll gladly pass.

What is the big deal with being a drug dealer/rapper’s girlfriend, or sleeping with an already married man, or being attracted to these guys who have nothing going for themselves? They disrespect you and treat you really bad! Why is that something to look forward to?  Is it because you idolize women like Marilyn Monroe who promoted nothing but adultery after allegedly sleeping with a former president and his brother. She openly let the world know she was a sex symbol!

Let’s mimic a person who has admitted their insecurities and became successful purely by looks and opening her legs.  Out of all the headstrong, beautiful, talented, successful women to look up to that promote women health, wellness, inner and outer beauty, yeah, let’s put her at the top of the list!

(These quotes illustrate a person who has no moral standards and lives by what is socially acceptable to self.)

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What happened to a woman’s virtue?

The definition of virtue is a positive trait or quality deemed to be morally good and thus is valued as a foundation of principle and good moral being.

All I have seen lately are women posting pictures in the skimpiest of outfits with there goodies on display for the world to see.  Like, what happened to “letting a man’s mind wonder?” This was a life lesson among many other life lessons my mother preached to me in my teenage years.

Have you ever wondered why a man treats you like crap? Or why you are always the side chick? Maybe it is the way you portray yourself.  While, we as women due have perks and advantages with our body, that does not mean to use and abuse that power, while letting multiple men take advantage of us.

I’ve always told myself, “Self-love is the best love!” I am not talking about a narcissistic love.  Many females are psychologically broken, just like Marilyn Monroe was, because they were not told they were “pretty” or beautiful growing up, which can cause them to have low self-esteem and chase after a love they never received.  But, one betrayal just leads to another betrayal and to another, until you are just a lost soul in this lonely, cold world.

Unfortunately, the mind works in mysterious ways and who really knows why we need to always receive validation and confirmation from society.  And, we all are guilty of it.  That’s why there are so many selfies taken in the same outfit with different poses, in a collage, and then posted to multiple social media outlets.  “Oh YAAAYYY, I got 500 likes on this one picture, I’m popular now!” We look for that ego boost to let us know we still got it.

I guess females love Marilyn because she emphasized so much about living life and not caring  what others thought about her.   It’s okay to have fun, live life, laugh, but it is another thing to trample on someone else’s territory and disrespect their marriage, relationships, friendships, property, ect.  It’s one thing to become successful by flaunting your ass for an income, which I am not promoting, but it’s another thing to flaunt your ass in the face of another woman’s husband/boyfriend/fiance to be vindictive, receive sexual pleasure, or exchanging favors for money.

Looking up to someone that lived by selfish standards such as not loving, not believing, and always walking away is a very lonely lifestyle to look forward to.  Why would you want that? Why would you want to walk in some other woman’s shadows?

So all these trending Petty Betties that love to post about another woman’s boyfriend/husband/fiance in their inbox and threaten to save these digital prints for collateral damage (which are the main ones that put Marilyn Monroe on a pedestal)  YOU ARE WRONG! There is a reason why that man is in your inbox  and it is not for the same reason they are with the the woman they can publicly be seen with.

Another thing, re-evaluate yourself as person. When you feel like you have so much self-confidence to post revealing photos or seductive statuses, thing you are boldly expressing your femininity, ask yourself these questions:

  1. Why do I do the things I do? Is it because I love myself or hate myself?
  2. What do I want?
  3. Have I been living a life of self-pity, deceit, and revenge?
  4. What can I do to change myself for the better?
  5. Should I seek help to get out of my current situation?

There is light at the end of your dark tunnel.  You know this blog would not be me if I did not say anything about Jesus.  Seeking Jesus is the first step in your healing process.  He will fulfill your every desire and make your heart whole.   You will begin to love yourself and everything will fall into place after that.

***Proverbs 31 is a great Chapter to read in learning how to become a virtuous woman… “For her price is far above rubies.”


About AI

Hi Everyone, First and foremost, I love talking about the Lord, because I know through Him all things are possible. He has brought me through the many unexpected trials of life, and He still loves me even after all of my trespasses. I aspire to love anyone and everything like Jesus. I would consider myself a Positivist and I am the epitome of a DOER! I believe that if you are positive you will get anything accomplished. It may be hard, it may be difficult but at the end you will achieve success in knowing you can DO anything! I like to find and witness the good in everything. I like to know what's going on with people, why they think the way they think or do the things they do! I love to have discussions about things, feelings, ideas, people, etc. that matter and that could potentially improve someone's situation or mindset. So why not start a blog? It is the new Gift of Gab!!! It's a way to acquire diverse opinions, talk and meet new people, everything I love to do!!! I hope you all enjoy reading my blogs and feel free to comment and share anything that is on your mind... Follow me on Instagram: @ana.honesty Blessings ALL!!! :-)
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4 Responses to Trap Queen or Nah?

  1. Pingback: Trap Queen or Nah? | myinspirationsandmotivations

  2. Kally says:

    This is very interesting read and I just want to drop you a note to tell you I enjoyed it very much! Thanks for sharing.

    Liked by 2 people

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