My Thoughts

I saw Hidden Figures this previous weekend and it was absolutely a phenomenal movie.  I did not know that black women partook in the journey of the first man into space, orbiting the earth, and on the moon.  If anything else does not inspire me, which a lot of things do, this movie has definitely been  my initial inspiration and motivation for 2017.

Now with this whole Kim Burrell nonsense.  Do not base your opinion on seeing the movie based on her atrocious sermon.  Now does she seem like a raging homophobic with xenophobic tendencies that speaks before she thinks, YES! Although, I may not personally agree with a person’s lifestyle, I will not judge that individual or condemn that individual, because overall I am not the judge.  God is!! It is also none of my business who and how others want to spend their time.  However, I will continue to spread the Word of God, and to me, that is to love everybody.img_2950

I think it is an unfortunate situation that she lost her promotion endeavors, but, ultimately, its her fault.  She has no significance in the movie, except a soundtrack. Her opinion on a demographic of people should not dictate you watching the movie, because the movie reveals a part of history that most were not aware of. I love knowing what my ancestors have accomplished.  I detest when people bring bad vibes to historically, astronomical moments and the true attention and intention is deflected to mediocrity.

This movie has truly motivated me to accomplish all my academic goals this year,   I hope to share with you all later down the road!

#watchthemovie

#remember

#thinkbeforeyouspeak

 

My 2016 Highlight

I have had an extremely busy year!!!  I have not been able to aggressively write like I wanted to, in hopes of exploring my creative side, nonetheless, I have had a pretty interesting year.

 

Honestly, I cannot even think back to January and everything in between.  It is like a blur.  I know I knocked out as many college courses as I could this year, which definitely contributes to my lack of memory for this year.  Now I am four classes away from receiving my Bachelor’s degree. (I guess that will be a highlight for 2017).

HOWEVER, my biggest highlight and truly a blessing from God was receiving 20/20 vision.

A Christmas Message

I just recently got back on my FaceBook page, which means that I took a well needed break from an overbearing, narcissistic driven, and highly opinionated site! I have noticed that I can literally observe social media in spurts.  In the short time that I have been back on FaceBook I have observed quite a few posts and videos that do nothing to increase intellect, confidence, optimism, or any other thing that can remotely improve the well-being of another being, potentially influence a person to do better, or enhance or improve a person’s character.

Out of all the post that do not have any significance, the ones that stick out the most are the ANTI-CHRISTMAS post, which are quite atrocious and downright disrespectful.  Christmas is about love, spreading happiness, and being hopeful. Christmas is meant to be beautiful!

I get it, you may not believe in Santa Claus, God, Spirits, Tooth Fairy, Easter Bunny, etc., but you all are expressing your hate and discontent to children, innocent-minded children!

Your children may be fortunate to receive a plethora of gifts, but there are so many children who pray and hope for a warm bed to lay their head at night, clean water to drink and bathe themselves, toys to play with, books to read, food to eat, the list goes on….  Their Santa Clause may not be a fat guy dressed in a red robe that slides down a chimney. Their Santa may be you, me, our friends, the various of organizations and foundations who donate at special times of the year or all throughout the year.  They believe in HOPE.  Hope that someone will be generous enough to think about them at a sentimental time of the year. 

So when you project to the world via social media that Santa Claus is not real, you are truly projecting that belief systems do not exist, and that believing in something creates a false sense of purpose to receive, to give, to achieve, to share, to wish, to hope, and to pray. What you are perpetuating to society is that you have no moral compass because you have never struggled or never wanted for anything!

So if you won’t admit it, I will be the first to admit, I have struggled and I do have a strong belief system in God.  Over the years I have experienced that feeling that comes when you have the sudden urge to give is not an act of myself, it is an act of my belief, which is the Holy Spirit that dwells within me.  I personally believe that a moral compass is what drives people to give and to believe in the Spirit of Christmas, the Spirit of Santa, and most of all the Spirit of God. God is my Santa, so believe what you want, but do not strip away the Spirit of Christmas that dwells in innocent-minded children or other people around you!

And… if you are too afraid to say Merry Christmas because it is politically incorrect, I would like to wish you all a very MERRY CHRISTMAS!!!! Hope my dog, Prince, cheers you up!

Every time I read this passage I get chills (It is an amazing feeling to believe in something and someone)

Luke 2:6-15:
6 While they were there, the time came for the baby to be born,
7 and she gave birth to her firstborn, a son. She wrapped him in cloths and placed him in a manger, because there was no guest room available for them.
8 And there were shepherds living out in the fields nearby, keeping watch over their flocks at night.
9 An angel of the Lord appeared to them, and the glory of the Lord shone around them, and they were terrified.
10 But the angel said to them, “Do not be afraid. I bring you good news that will cause great joy for all the people.
11 Today in the town of David a Savior has been born to you; he is the Messiah, the Lord.
12 This will be a sign to you: You will find a baby wrapped in cloths and lying in a manger.”
13 Suddenly a great company of the heavenly host appeared with the angel, praising God and saying,
14 “Glory to God in the highest heaven, and on earth peace to those on whom his favor rests.”
15 When the angels had left them and gone into heaven, the shepherds said to one another, “Let’s go to Bethlehem and see this thing that has happened, which the Lord has told us about.”

 

Hey Blackie

It amazes me how the reflection of dislike and discontent towards one another is seen through children at the young age of 14 years old.

A boy suspended two days out of school for defending, once again, the color of his skin.  Yes, someone called him BLACKIE!

I did not know what to tell the boy as he is a product of an interracial relationship with the absence of Blackie.  I could only feel for the boy and tell him from my standpoint that it does not get any easier.

Person:  Hey, Blackie!

Me:  Yes, I am Black! That is who I am, not for the negative connotation you have given to the color of my skin. I accept who I am… big nose and eyes.Full lips and round curves.  Plump butt and thick thighs.  Kinky hair and round bodacious curves. Muscular tone from the rhythm my body can move to on the dance floor.

See I knew once I accepted who I am my heart would not generate hate from filthy words used by another human being. Instead, I can emanate a change through my actions of acceptance.

Being black is what motivates me to keep going, to keep surpassing my peers, especially those who have spoken racial slurs against me and have cursed my very existence.

I want to encourage all Black youth to keep pressing forward.  You do not need to defend the color of your skin.  Defend the content of your mind and the elevation of your intelligence through the truth and acceptance of who you are and who you are meant to be.

So many warriors have come and gone and fought for the color of our skin, that should tell you something right there!!!  So many have won over our rights to be free!! So many have won over our emancipation to aspire to be anything that you want to be!!! So many creations have been made through the brilliant minds of your same skin color!!!

So be proud.  If someone uses that language against you.  Tell them, “you are who God made you to be and you accept who God made you to be.”  You can, also, tell them “defining people by their skin color proves just how inferior and ignorant the human race can really be!”

#ilovemyskin #blackie #blackmagic #parentsdobetter #teachourchildrentolove #Whitneysong #GreatestloveofALL #IamME #WhoarreYOU

 

I will keep Shining

Not that I care what others think but I have reached a peak of acceptance towards closet sexism that thrives strongly among today’s men in the workforce. The undeniable disdain men exude through their words, demeanor, actions etc. has reached a new level of atrocity.

Why should I not be awarded something I am deserving of… I only put my best foot forward everyday. I aggressively work towards the mission’s goals, while actively working towards accomplishing my personal goals. No, I do not take short cuts! If I notice a problem, I am already presenting solutions.

The competition is real… You say or are always worried about this, that, and the third. Apparently you are not worried enough to always demean my very existent. Is the threat of my existence demeaning to your masculinity in comparison to the apparent success of my femininity? Do you feel threatened by the very existence of my refusal to quit or my drive to survive?

To whereas I am accomplishing my goals for myself, I can’t help but think you are accomplishing your goals for someone else. Or at least, if you did not you would not prey to defame the life of others. You would give credit where credit is due, acquire a lesson-learned, and move on!!!

A Message to the #SlutWalk

So let me put this frank.

Women have had to climb an unequivocal ladder to prove that we too can be just as magnificent as our male counterparts.  And you come with this #slutwalk that sets us back 50 years, saying women are liberated and can do and wear what they want.  You subjectify your bodies for profit, you subjectify facts to fit your own ideals and think nothing of the other women who strive to better themselves through education and maintaining a prestigious image for all to R-E-S-P-E-C-T!!!

Definition of Subjective: existing in the mind 2. pertaining to or characteristic of an individual; personal; individual: a subjective evaluation.

We all have been through that defiant stage living with our parents, where we wanted to wear provocative clothing to portray that we are real women.  As teenagers, we start out wearing respectable clothing at the house and as the night progresses we tend to have less and less clothing on… (OOPS did I admit the truth).  Sure did, because we are all guilty of attempting to pursue a path that our parents have adamantly attempted to steer us away from. But I guess some women grow up, while others don’t.

I believe that women go through all lengths to achieve success and provide for their families.  So I am not here to knock the ways people chose to live their lives.  However, if you chose to live your life according to someone who achieved their fame by taking their clothes off and sleeping with wealthy men then I think you have no brain for yourself and are cheating yourself from a fair opportunity to live a true carefree life. Free of pain, free of fear, free of the potential possibility that it could happen to you, and most of all free of shame.

If you want to have sex with numerous men, that is your life.  You do not need to share your life with the world.  You want to live your life by following the leader by all means do just that.

But you know what… I grew up and figured that was not the image I wanted myself to perpetuate to others around me, as well as other young women and teenage girls.  Promoting women health, image, prosperity, intelligence, and beauty is great, but on a platform that is uplifting to all women, not just your kind.  We still have to pick up the pieces of this carefree lifestyle when women decide they do not want to live this life anymore.

At the end of the day I know women who have lived their lives the way you portray this image of women, #slutwalk, in social media.  Needless to say, they have died from AIDS, if not currently living with AIDS.  One woman is blind (due to another type of STD) and living with AIDS. Various of other women live with chronic STDs.

All types of women have been sexually assaulted.  Not just the ones that wear provocative clothing.  Old women, young women, powerful women, poor women, rich women, ALL WOMEN!!

But you want to capitalize on provocative and promiscuous women…

And then have the audacity to promote a stigma that has been so reluctantly labelled to one race…

“black women are more likely than white women to be thought of as inherently slutty (a phenomenon known as the Jezebel stereotype), and were therefore more reluctant to embrace (and, in a sense, validate) the label” (http://www.highsnobiety.com/2016/09/28/amber-rose-slut-walk/)

I guess my argument is: As hard as it is to be a black woman in America undergoing racial scrutiny by always being thought of as inferior due to my skin color and gender, being called “Bitch” two more times after you tell a person not to call you that and being told nonchalantly in an irrelevant conversation that “Sure, I would date a girl like you”; I do not want your representation. I do not want to be represented by someone who would prefer to validate reasons for being a slut and irresponsible. Yes, I am PISSED!

Question: When was the last time any of you attended a meeting, training, or webinar to aid women who have been sexually assaulted, vice pressing your ideals on society!?!?!?

You are not real, you are emotional from circumstantial, real-life situations that happen to be very unfortunate and sad.  However, you are setting a trend for young women and teenagers to follow further prohibiting their ability to make judicious decisions.  Most of all, you are barricading the true “Bad” women of the working class because you are perpetuating this awful image

There are some good points of the #Slut Walk, however, overall it projects a poor image of women who are living in an unrealistic world who chose not to have any control over their lives and their own actions (not talking about rape right now).  Although, being carefree is not a bad thing, there should be limits to the things we care and do not care about.

Just to clarify, no woman asks to be raped, but the actions that lead to  the rape are the things that we can potentially control if given the ability and opportunity to know better, we should do better.

This is targeted towards the audience of women who support the #SlutWalk; not defenseless children, battered women, women who have been and are victims of a generational curse of poverty and low-income areas, or women who have fallen victim to human trafficking.  There are so many women who cannot hep their situation and are made to wear provocative clothing in spite of their own wishes and control.

This is targeted towards women who willingly make the decision to wear the clothes they want to wear and hangout in the areas they want to hangout in, that consciously know what they are doing and who they decide to get involved with, and consciously know what is right and know what is wrong.

Women who can exercise self-control of their thoughts and image – should work towards not inserting their selves in vulnerable predicaments, not trusting everybody they meet, not being gullible to shiny objects and money, developing a strong positive image of their selves, taming their thirst for alcohol, educating their selves on the mind of a rapist and culture of rape, possibly taking self-empowerment classes to know their self-worth, possibly taking some self-defense classes and understanding self-defense, attempting anything that has more of a meaning than capitalizing on the image of women once they are raped or the outfit they wore when they slept with a man they could care less to know their name.

So instead of promoting the promiscuity of women, maybe we should promote and exercise voting rights to further support women’s rights, laws that protect women, and women’s equality!!!

So are you really doing a justice to women who have been caught in compromising situations that have led to rape or are you doing an injustice to women expressing their individuality and need to live unique lives  who have been broken by life’s taunting nightmares and hurt and betrayed by filthy, undeserving people?

#womensrights #powerfulwomen #validationnotneeded #pickandchoseyourbattles #betactful #stopcategorizingALLwomen #whyslut #doyoureallywanttobecalledaslut #thatsstupid #toeachhisown #notjudging #fightforintelligence #notpromiscuity #notsex #whybesomethingmediocre #whysettleformediocrity

Hope + Faith = TrueAdulting

Although, I was raised in a Christian family growing up, I cannot say I fully understood the meaning of hope and prayer.  In those amateur stages of my life, my mother and the church family constantly prayed for my sister and I, even when we first left for the military.  Many Christians may refer to consistent prayer people as prayer warriors.  I know truly if it had not been for the power of prayer and those steadfast prayer warriors, I would have lost all hope in surviving to be a better, Christ-like person each day. It is not until recently that I have fully understood what it is to remain hopeful and consistently pray.

Merriam Webster’s dictionary defines hope as “to want something to happen or be true and think that it could happen or be true.”  This would appear to be a basic and earthly definition of hope.”  My definition of “hope” is a deep yearning desire for positive change, whether in health, finances, spirituality, welfare of others, etc.  I believe that a person cannot “hope for something” without exhibiting faith.  Merriam Webster’s dictionary utilizes a weak diction for the definition of hope in saying “to want something to” or “think that it could” be true!  Faith on the other hand is the “conviction that something is true” (Towns, 2007).

As a young Sailor, I use to long and desire for better days while being underway.  Things could not have been any worse in my life.  I thought I made all the wrong decisions.  I felt like I was drowning in a world of sin.  When I finally pulled back into port from this arduous underway, I went to church the following Sunday.  I remember the preacher discussing the topic of “hope” and he stated something like this, ”you can hope all day, but where is your faith?”  That’s when I realized the problem was me, my hope had no matter, most importantly it had no faith.  I began to go to church more and listen to the word of God from my pastor and church family, surprisingly it made me feel great on the inside.

According to Elmer Towns, “The Christian’s hope does not arise from his desire or wishes; rather it comes from God Himself, who gives the believer the gift of hope” (Towns, 2007).  I believe this statement to be true.  The hope I had while on the ship was a human hope, but the hope that is instilled in me now is an affirmed hope.  It is a hope that I know everything will be alright and I know God will protect, lead, and guide me the way that I should go.  Romans 5:1-2 assures Christians that we are “justified through faith,” “have peace with God through our Lord Jesus Christ, through whom we have gained access by faith into this grace in which we now stand.”  The true testament that I can attest to is continued in Romans 5:3-4, “Not only so, but we also glory in our sufferings, because we know that suffering produces perseverance; perseverance, character; and character, hope” (NIV).

Not only did I take it upon myself to start going to church without my mother telling me to get ready for church, I also began to pray.  According to Elmer Towns, prayer is defined as a “face-to-face relationship with God.” Reading God’s Word and personal prayer is the only way to get closer to the Holy Spirit, so that He may be able to lead and guide us in our daily lives.  Prayer is what continues our hope for the various issues we may discuss with God, such as “intercession for others, request for needs, praise and adoration to God, meditative prayer (thinking of God), warfare prayer against spiritual enemies, repentance after sinning, prayer of blessing others, and the prayer of faith for physical healing” (Towns, 2007).

As stated before the power of prayer brings us closer to the Holy spirit so that God can guide and direct our paths.  This intellectual journey can be referred to as a special encounter.  Special encounters with God cannot be predicted.  They are proven through faithful prayer and worship to God almighty.  There are various situations that biblical authors were in that were blessed to have an encounter with God such as, Moses freeing God’s people (intentional encounter with God) or Job’s heartache and suffering (a specific task).  Many times as Christians, we get caught up and forget to praise the Lord, for all the good and bad that happens in our life.

Continuing on with my spiritual journey through prayer, I was able to better handle my work issues and feelings and emotions towards others.  When I started to feel like things were getting out of control, I knew my safe haven was God Almighty and that he would take care of all my troubles and cares.  I am a living testimony to Psalm 91:2, “I will say of the Lord, “He is my refuge and my fortress, my God, in whom I trust” (NIV).  I do believe that God works in mysterious ways, there were times when he completely removed me from situations and then there were time where I had to endure situations much like Job.  I can only presume that it was the Lord’s way of testing my faith.  Instead of panicking and get all upset like I used to I apply Philippians 4:6-7 to my life.  It instructs me to “not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God.  And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus” (NIV).

 

In conclusion, hope and prayer collectively are what we need to build our relationship with the Lord and to become spiritually inclined in our faith and understanding of Christ and how He wants us to live our lives.  Instead of living with human hope, I now live with Christian hope. A hope that does not put me to shame, because God’s love has been poured out into my heart through the Holy Spirit, who has been given to me (Romans 5:5, NIV).  When I now think about hope I do not think of it as despair, something that will never change.  Instead, I pray to God in hope of  a brighter future, in hope of Him to heal the sick, in hope to touch an unbeliever, in hope to fix whatever I need, because I have the conviction in knowing He is able and He will! Romans 12:12 tells us to “Be joyful in hope, patient in affliction, faithful in prayer” (NIV).

***This is dedicated to my Mother.  She has instilled in me, key morals and values to leading a successful and prosperous life and they all begin with God  and end with God, through hope, prayer, and faith!

#hope #faith #Godlovesme #realparents #realadulting #keepthefaith #hopewithprayer #timetoACT #lovingGod #successful #opportunities #prayerwarriors #prayermoms #love